
Monday morning started out like this...
I walk in the closet and pick out a black top, black sweater and mustard skirt. I choose a skirt that I know is no more than an inch above my knee cap and a top that requires I wear a camisole underneath but is nonetheless modest. (I'm gonna wear a cardigan over it anyways).
I get to school/work and immediately am informed that I need to go take a look at
"Jenni's" skirt and "
Susie's" top. They are out of dress code. The most dreaded of my job tasks. Dress-code police. On the way to check out these "violators", I see two other girls wearing workout/yoga pants and trying desperately to dodge my eye contact. I feel convicted to do the right thing and ask them to call a parent so they can change. I go confront the other girls and they do the same. This all happens in the first 20 minutes of my Monday workday. The morning bell hasn't even rung yet. Not five minutes later, my boss comes into my office in a fury and says we need to have a "come to Jesus" talk with the high school girls because this is getting out of hand. (from his position this involves high-strung parents calling him and threatening to pull their child out of Calvary for being too "rigid" or making the child miss class by sitting in the office until dress-code approp. clothes arrive.) So he is stressed; I'm stressed. We work a plan to have the girls (all 78 of them) meet in the media center for a dress-code discussion....which my boss wants me to lead. I feel like I'm going to vomit. How am I going to deliver a grace-filled speech on modesty and keeping the rules to a bunch of teenage girls? Heavy task.
9:55 break time-meeting time. Mr. Kincaid (my boss) starts it off and then hands it over to me. I'm so nervous. Nervous, because I don't want the girls to know how much I struggle with the same issue. Nervous because I care way too much about what these young women think of me. I know that this is a great opportunity to share some gospel truth and Godly-women behavior with them. So I start to relax a bit and trust that God will deliver my words to their heart.
A conversation I recently had with my husband kept playing in my head. "It's not enough to change your behavior. You must pray for a heart change." This regarding my struggle with counting calories and wanting to be thin to be happy. I knew this was the message I wanted to share with these girls.
Yes, it's important to obey the school rules. We need to respect authority and the God-appointed leaders. Yes, we want to prepare them for the professional world and holding a job one day. But most importantly, I want these girls to know how loved they are by God; to feel secure in that love and therefore dress in a way that says "I am valued by the ultimate lover, Christ. He sees me as beautiful and without imperfection because He lives in me and shines through me." It's not enough to cover your belly and cleavage. It's not enough to wear loose-fitting pants. It's not enough to spend less time in front of the mirror in the morning. None of that matters IF you forget that God loves you and created you to showcase His glory. It's all for show. All for selfish gain. It's plain legalism and works-based thinking. I know that just because a lot of our girls dress modest, it doesn't mean they know Christ. For them, I pray God opened their ears and eyes to His truth. His truth is the only thing that will set these girls free. Not free from sin- free to sin and KNOW that they are accepted and loved and forgiven. And then to press on to know Him more and be refined into the women He created them to be in the first place.
As I'm typing this now, I pray that God would stir in these girls heart real, honest feelings of love and acceptance in Christ. In His finished work on the cross for them and the pure, white resurrected Savior that covers all their imperfections now till eternity. I pray that out of that realization, they would be spurred on to dress to honor Him. I also pray this for my own heart every morning.
"Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer." Psalm 19:14